June’s Book Club: ‘The Wisdom of Your Body’ by Hillary L. McBride PhD

Understanding Embodiment In A Disconnected World

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Summary: In June’s HealingT1D book club, we explored Hillary McBride’s ‘The Wisdom of Your Body’. This profound read delves into the body’s role in healing, the impact of trauma, and the importance of movement. McBride’s insights encourage a deeper connection with our bodies and thoughtful emotional processing.

Today, I want to share insights from the first book featured in HealingT1D’s book club: The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary McBride. It was an enlightening read, and I hope to convey some of its key messages to those who couldn’t attend. While I’ll highlight some edited points from the book, I highly recommend reading it yourself. McBride’s profound advice is likely to resonate differently with each of us, as healing is a deeply personal journey.

The Wisdom of Your Body is both bold and poetic, exploring the sacred nature of our bodies in today’s world. McBride guides us through understanding our bodies from a personal perspective, emphasising the importance of our relationship with ourselves. The book delves into themes such as trauma, healing, bodily sensations, pain, sexuality, and spirituality, making it a comprehensive exploration of embodiment.

This book prompted significant reflection for me, especially with the self-reflection exercises at the end of each chapter. Although I’ll touch on a few themes below, the book is rich with insights that you’ll likely find intriguing if you decide to read it!

Embodiment And What It Means To Be ‘Embodied’

McBride opens her book by underscoring how much our bodies contribute to our lives. She mentions that our bodies facilitate “human thriving, connection to ourselves and others, and the fullness of pleasure, wisdom, empathy and justice,” among other experiences (p. 2). She argues that “being fully connected to the body is about being fully alive” (p. 6).

However, embodiment isn’t easy for everyone. Those who have experienced trauma or illness may find their bodies feel disconnected from their true selves. For individuals with diabetes, the challenge is even greater. They live in their bodies yet must frequently measure and medicate it, creating a complicated relationship.

Personally, I’ve struggled with feeling that my body is somewhat separate from me, often perceiving it as a liability. McBride suggests that the body inherently knows how to live in a connected and present way. She encourages dialoguing with our bodies to uncover what they are trying to communicate. This idea intrigues me, though I’m still unsure what this dialogue should look like. Should I journal my body’s responses, or simply listen and interpret?

The Traumatised Body

In The Wisdom of Your Body, McBride explores how trauma affects bodily function. She provides a helpful diagram of the stress response, which consists of four stages: safety, social engagement, mobilization, and shutdown. When stressed, we first seek social support. If that fails, we move into the fight-flight-freeze response. If that doesn’t work, the body shuts down.

The hierarchy of trauma – the fight-flight-freeze continuum – is not new to me.  What was new, or what caused me to think more deeply, was the idea of social engagement existing as a stage prior to mobilization.  McBride stated “If social connection won’t help me, or if it could put me at greater risk, another branch of my vagus nerve is activated, along with my hypothalamus, pituitary gland, and adrenal gland.”  This suggests that, with a high enough level of threat or stress, social connection becomes irrelevant and the body’s physiology decreases that level of functioning in favour of mobilization.    If that is the case, then asking someone to be social or create a social connections when existing in a mobilization response (what I suspect diabetes is) may be futile, or even harmful.

This notion aligns with Dr. Kelly Turner’s emphasis on social support for healing, but it also suggests that during high stress, focusing on re-regulating the nervous system might be more beneficial before pursuing social interactions.

The Shutdown Response And Depression

If mobilization fails to address stress, the shutdown response takes over. In modern life, this often manifests as feeling drained or wanting to isolate. McBride connects this response to depression, which is two to three times more prevalent among people with Type 1 Diabetes (Gendelman et al., 2009).

The Mobilization Stage and Movement

McBride highlights that when stress peaks at the mobilization stage, movement can help return us to a safer state. Movement dissipates nervous system energy, preventing further stress escalation and supporting overall well-being. McBride emphasizes that movement, rather than exercise, is crucial for physical, mental, emotional, and relational health (p. 239). Gentle, enjoyable movement is preferred over more punishing exercise routines (p. 241).

These ideas on movement drew together my thoughts from other areas.  For instance, in her book “Radical Hope”, Dr Kelly Turner identified exercise as another healing factor.  Similarly, Daniel Darkes used running on a regular, perhaps daily, basis as a form of movement or exercise when he healed from Type 1 Diabetes.  On a day-to-day level, John Pemberton uses exercise as a key factor in optimally controlling his Type 1 Diabetes.  Lastly, I have also discussed the benefits of rebounding (a form of jumping) for health.  Perhaps I should add trauma processing to its list of benefits!

Feelings

McBride dedicates a chapter to “Feeling Feelings,” offering guidance on processing emotions. She identifies seven primary emotions—anger, excitement, sadness, disgust, joy, fear, and sexual excitement—and suggests that each has its own circuitry and function. This concept reminded me of Candace Pert’s work on neuropeptides and their association with emotions. Could insulin, for instance, be linked to anger?

McBride’s advice on understanding and processing emotions is invaluable. She provides strategies for developing a grounding toolkit and recognizing bodily responses to emotions, which I highly recommend exploring.

Thoughts And Language

McBride discusses the connection between thoughts and bodily experiences, coining the term “bodymind” to describe this integrated system. Our language affects our physiology, which made me reconsider terms like “diabetic.” If our language shapes our body’s state, could referring to ourselves as “people with diabetes” foster a healthier self-perception?

As McBride suggests, we should focus on nurturing our identity beyond diabetes. By living fully and embracing our broader selves, we allow new ways of thinking and being to emerge.

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    Stuckness

    Welcoming The Unwelcome

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    Summary: Feeling “stuck” in her Type 1 Diabetes healing journey, the author reflects on its complexity, possibly linked to ADHD traits and deeper uncertainties. She explores the significance of acknowledging this state, perceiving it as a reflection of internal struggles. Drawing insights from Britt Frank’s book, the author recognises the anxiety associated with remaining stuck and yet the comfort it provides. However, she also confronts its limitations in inhibiting personal growth and self-discovery. 

    Stuckness!   Is that a word??  I’m guessing it isn’t but it certainly feels like the right word for me right now.  I suspect that this is partly an ADHD thing (task overwhelm, difficulty prioritising and so on) but there’s something else to it too.  Healing Type 1 Diabetes feels like such a massive task that I sometimes wonder if I’m doing the right thing at all (in terms of actually being successful at healing).

    I could just sit here and write about the lovely new ideas I’ve had for how to heal T1D (there are many!) or produce a theoretical piece on what I think is going on with the condition that is T1D.  But, to be honest, I want to be real and I want to be honest.  When I have healed my diabetes, it will be important to look back on these moments of stuckness (yep, I did use that word again!!) alongside the moments of success.  Other people will want to see that it’s not a straight line journey.
    I do believe that there is something about being stuck that has value.  I think it might be an outward manifestation of what is actually going on inside our bodies.  Somehow, with Type 1 Diabetes, the body gets stuck in this fight-flight-freeze response.  The switch doesn’t get turned off and the body doesn’t reset into a rest-and-repair mode.  So, rather than having the natural waves of rising to the fight-flight-freeze response and then falling back to the rest-repair mode when the stressful event has passed, we are stuck.  The rest of our being will reflect that.  Our physiology will respond accordingly.  Our emotions will respond accordingly.  Our thought processes will respond accordingly.  The whole ecosystem of the human body will resonate with and honour this deceleration.
    I have been looking around for solutions for stuck.  I came across the book ‘The Science of Stuck’ by Britt Frank.  In the book, Britt argues that anxiety is a your way out of stuckness.  You become anxious because your body and mind are trying to alert you to the fact that you are ignoring yourself and not living your authentic life.
    Britt argues that staying stuck can have benefits.  I certainly identify with this.  Staying stuck means that I don’t have to show people I’m struggling or doubting myself or lost or lonely.  Keeping myself at home and doing nothing means that I don’t have to witness myself fail as I attempt to do something I really want to do.  Staying stuck gives me a feeling of safety – that I can’t be criticised or attacked or seen as a disappointment by others when I try something new or reveal more of who I truly am.
    I understand when Britt states that being stuck is a survival response.  It has truly kept me safe for all these years.  But, and this is a big but, it has also stopped me from having more and being more than I am.  It has truly stopped me from knowing who I am.  I have remained  as potential and have yet to try actualising.  I don’t have any idea of how far I might be able to go.  That saddens me.  But it is currently where I sit on this journey.  So I will do my best to honour this and see what comes.

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      A Complaint-Free Life

      Positivity Increase Health

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      Summary: The author reflects on self-compassion and the detrimental nature of complaining, contrasting it with love and compassion. Inspired by Will Bowen’s “A Complaint-Free World,” she embarks on a challenging journey to eliminate complaints. Their pursuit aims for enhanced wellbeing through self-awareness and compassion practice.

      As I was writing my last blog post on Self-Compassion and Kristin Neff’s book “Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself”,  I started mulling about what compassion and self-compassion might look like in life.   

      Complaining seems to me to be the true antithesis of compassion.  When you complain about how you look in the mirror or how annoying you found someone to be, compassion cannot be present.  Compassion comes from love, complaining comes from hate (or at least dislike).  Compassion asks you to see the human and the vulnerable in yourself or the other.  Compassion requires patience and understanding, instead of judgement.  If you are sitting with compassion, you cannot have the judgement necessary to complain.

      A Complaint-Free World

      Self-compassion and compassion for others could be accessed through multiple routes (Kristin Neff gave many ideas in her book).  However, something I immediately thought of, when thinking about compassion, was a book I read some years ago about complaining.  The book was called “A Complaint-Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted by Will Bowen”.

      In his book, Will Bowen outlines an approach to stop complaining.  He offers the challenge of 21 days without a single complaint.  You wear a bracelet on one wrist and, each time you complain, you switch it to the other wrist.  The first challenge is to get through a day without switching  the bracelet.  Then, a week.  Then, three weeks.  It sounds pretty easy in practice.  It isn’t!

      My Previous Experience Of Stopping Complaining

      I started trying to do the 21-day complaint-free challenge when I first read Will Bowen’s book maybe five or six years ago.  It was so impossibly hard for me at that time!  I’d get a few hours in and then be complaining again.  And, as my awareness increased, I felt like I was just getting worse and worse,  I ended up giving up, feeling doomed to failure for the rest of my life.  

      Four Stages Of Competence By Martin Broadwell

      Since then, I have learnt about the ‘Four Stages of Competence’ Model by Martin Broadwell.  This model states that there are four distinct stages in the learning process:

      1. Unconscious Incompetence:

      The learner is not aware how to do the required task and may also not be aware that they do not know how to do the task.

      2. Conscious Incompetence:

      The learner becomes aware that they do not know how to do the required task.  They are likely to make a lot of mistakes at this stage as the attempt to do the task.

      3. Conscious Competence:

      The learner learns how to do the task.  However, it still requires diligence and concentration to achieve it.  Focus and attention are required.

      4. Unconscious Competence:

      The skill has been mastered to such a degree that focussed concentration is no longer required to perform the task.

      When I started to stop complaining, I quite quickly went from being an unconscious incompetent (not aware of just how much I was complaining) to a conscious incompetent (being aware that I was complaining all. the. time.  It was painful to realise just how negative I was.  I took this as an indication that I was failing at becoming complaint-free whereas, in fact, I was starting to progress up the stage of the learning process.  So, with this awareness, I am going into this new attempt with the realisation that I am going to go through a (hopefully not too painfully long!) patch where I am going to witness just how much I moan and complain about people and my life!  But hanging through this stage will bring me to a new place, where self-compassion, and compassion in general, will be mine.

      To Inform, Not To Complain

      Will Bowen, however, does assert in his book that a life without complaints should not be a life that accepts the unsatisfactory.  if you are provided with a service that isn’t up to standard, it is perfectly okay to say so.  But in a way that doesn’t turn it into a moan.  If your car wasn’t serviced on the day it was meant to be, it is okay to phone the company and point this out.  If your food at the restaurant was unappetising, informing the waiter or chef is the right thing to do.  Asking for a replacement is also okay.  But then complaining to your friends at the table about the poor quality of the restaurant or the service is where the buck stops.  That is not necessary.  Or good for your health.

      Complaining Is Bad For Your Health

      When you complain, your body releases more of the stress hormone cortisol.  As I have discussed in multiple previous articles (see here and here for examples), cortisol is responsible for kicking off, or at least contributing, to the fight-flight response in the body (see here for details).  This is the very mode that I believe creates Type 1 Diabetes in the body.  So reducing, or preferably eliminating, this behaviour is likely to reduce insulin resistance and therefore the amount of insulin dependence.  And that’s definitely not something to complain about!!

      Putting It Into Practice

      I think a non-complaint practice takes time to master.  Will Bowen came up with the idea of using a bracelet on your wrist that you switch from one wrist to the other each time you complain.  The aim is to get through a day, a week or a month without switching it.  I bought one of his bracelets for this purpose.  I like the idea of how this work sand will go and dig mine out of the cupboard so that I can use it from now.  Like any other form of practice – yoga, meditation, breathwork, even instrumental practice – I don’t anticipate it will be easy or free from mistakes.  But the learning is where the healing is.

      So, dear readers, if you see me complaining in any of my future blog posts, please kindly call me out on it!  I won’t take it as a complaint from you, I promise.  It will purely take it as a gift of learning for me.

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        Osteopathy Turns The Freeze Response To Flight!

        How Trauma Theory Informs This Response

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        Summary:  After her initial osteopathy session revealed a freeze response, the author returned for a follow-up to find her body had shifted to a flight response. Surprised at the quick transition, the author reflected on trauma experts like Peter Levine and Babette Rothschild, exploring how these theories highlight how fight-flight-freeze responses impact health.

        I discussed in my blog post here about my first osteopathy appointment, where my osteopath found that my body was in a freeze response. 

        Now, I have returned for a follow-up appointment with my osteopath and have found that my body has shifted into a flight response!  My predictions in my blog post were right… I postulated that my freeze response would turn into a fight/flight response when it thawed!!

        I have to say that I was shocked at how quick it was for my body to shift from one state to the other.  Of  course, in normal life  and health, the human body switches between the fight-flight response and the rest-repair response with ease.  However, I now realise that I had expected something different from my body…  I thought it would just be stuck in one mode forever.  That I somehow had a broken switch, stuck forever in an activated sympathetic nervous system.  It would appear that that is not the case.  My body can heal whenever it wants.

        Peter Levine: Trauma Is A Physiological Response

        This transition in my sympathetic nervous system brought to mind for me the work of two trauma experts.  The first was the work of Peter Levine, PhD.  Peter Levine is a trauma specialist who works with the bodily responses of clients who have experienced traumatic events.  He is interested in the physiological process that animals undergo as a result of traumatic events and how this information can be used to heal unresolved trauma in clients.    He argues that an unresolved trauma response, which is what I suspect Type 1 Diabetes is, can only be completed when the body is enabled to complete the normal physiological response to trauma.  

        This video is Peter Levine explaining in his own words how this may take place….

        Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Zsp4iRAGtc

        Babette Rothschild: Hierarchy Of Trauma Responses

        The second trauma expert that came to mind for me was Babette Rothschild.   Babette is a trained psychotherapist and body psychotherapist based in the United States.  Like Peter Levine, she specialises in the field of trauma and particularly on the bodily responses to it.  She has written an excellent book called ‘The Body Remembers‘, which I found incredibly useful when processing the disabling overwhelm of early bodily trauma.  

        In her second book, ‘The Body Remembers Volume 2: Revolutionizing Trauma Treatment‘, Babette outlines a model for understanding the different physiological responses to trauma – fight, flight, freeze – and places them relative to each other in scale.  (You can see a diagram of this scale, entitled ‘Autonomic Nervous System : Precision Regulation‘ on her website, somatictraumatherapy.com).

        What is important for me in Babette’s scale is that the freeze response is recognised as a greater response of the sympathetic nervous system than the fight-flight response.  So this supports the finding of my osteopath that, following treatment with her, my system down-regulated itself from a freeze response to a fight-flight response.

        My Body’s Response To The Flight Responses

        I am now wondering about the hypertension that my diabetologist has just diagnosed me with (see my post here on that).  I saw him for my appointment just two days after I had my osteopath appointment.  Was the high blood pressure just a temporary result of my body shifting from a freeze response to a more enlivened fight-flight response?  When the sympathetic nervous system triggers a fight-flight response, a series of hormones are released that trigger a raise in heart rate, breathing rate and, yes, blood pressure!

        I have booked an appointment with my General Practitioner to talk this through and explore whether or not I have a blood pressure issue.  Let’s find out if this is a fight-flight reaction or an actual health concern.  I’ll let you know what happens!

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          It’s The Freeze Response!!

          Osteopathy Provides Answers

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          Summary: After her first osteopathy session, she experienced profound insights about my body’s freeze response. Osteopathy, a holistic therapy, gently manipulates the body to enhance wellbeing. Despite initial uncertainty during the session, the author felt deeply relaxed afterward, akin to a therapeutic process. Exploring the freeze response’s role in her Type 1 Diabetes journey revealed intriguing possibilities for healing.

          I had my very first osteopathy appointment this week.  And the information I gained about my body was INCREDIBLE!!!

          What Is Osteopathy?

          Osteopathy is a complementary therapy that can be used alongside more usual Western medical treatments to increase the health of a person.  It can treat issues in the nervous system, the circulatory system and the lymphatic system.

          Osteopathy is a hands-on treatment that is both drug-free and non-invasive.  Osteopaths use their hands to manipulate the joints, muscles and spine of a patient to improve functioning and wellbeing.

          Osteopathy understands the body holistically, as a mind-body-soul system.  All systems of the body are understood as interrelated.

          My Experience Of Osteopathy

          Osteopathy definitely needs to be identified as an alternative therapy.  I found it be wholly relaxing, lying on my back on a massage table as my osteopath proceeded to place her hands softly on various parts of my anatomy.  To be honest, most of the time I was even unsure if anything effective was being undertaken!  There was no manipulation of my joints or muscles.  

          I wasn’t even sure if anything was being done… Until I finished the treatment!  At the end, I felt exhausted and a bit dizzy.  I spent the rest of my day simply relaxing and resting on the sofa.  I felt like I had undergone a really intensive energy process, not dissimilar to the feeling I have got from an emotionally-intensive psychotherapy session.

          Making Sense Of The Freeze Response

          From the moment my osteopath put her hands on my feet, she told me  with absolute certainty that I was in a freeze response.  I was instantaneously fascinated!  It was the piece of the puzzle that I was missing at this point in my healing journey.

          I had been oscillating between conceptualising Type 1 Diabetes as a fight response and then as a freeze response and then back again.  In my article on the fight-or-flight response, I discussed how I believed Type 1 Diabetes was a chronic fight-or-flight response brought on by traumatic experiences.  At the time of writing that article, I had been suspecting that T1D was most likely to be a chronic fight response.  This hunch came from my observations, and personal experience, of the high level of anger and rage that diabetics  exhibit, as well as the terminology that is often used to describe the condition… ‘Diabetes is a daily battle’ or ‘Winning the fight against diabetes’.

          However, in this article, I did also touch on how I felt that the fight-or-flight response became chronic because the person experiencing the trauma had no opportunity to process it.  And this would be where the freeze response comes in.  If the body has no outlet to process it, the experience has no option but to remain stored in the system, creating a chronic freeze state.

          Evidence Of A Freeze Response…?

          When the body goes into a ‘freeze response’, a series of physiological changes cascade through the body.  As I have thought about my body and the symptoms it has been exhibiting, I have concluded that my osteopath’s conclusion is most likely correct.  I do seem to exhibit a wide range of ‘freeze’ symptoms…

          Unthawing The Freeze Response…?

          My osteopath feels that she can shift my freeze response within two to three sessions.  To be honest, I feel skeptical right now that that is possible so I will wait to see what happens with that.

          Another thought that is still nagging at my mind now that I know my body is  in a freeze response comes about when I think about Daniel Darkes.  Daniel is an ultra-marathon runner.  One of the more usual responses to a threat is the flight response – running for your life.  So, if I am in a freeze response, like my osteopath is suggesting, and if I am therefore extrapolating correctly that T1D is an extended, chronic freeze response,  how did Daniel cure his T1D by using a flight response?? 

          The only thing that I am wondering about is whether healing from T1D might be a staged approach.  I suspect that, as you unfreeze from a freeze response, your body will then want to complete the unfinished fight-or-flight response.  For example, a deer in the wild that has collapsed in a freeze response in front of a predator, will want to awaken and spring to life at the first opportunity then run away.  If that is the case, I would expect to see a change in my physiology resulting from my osteopathic treatment, which exhibits more fight or flight responses.  I’ll keep you posted on that!

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            Cortisol: The ‘Stress’ Hormone

            Can Cortisol Actually Induce Healing?

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            Summary: The author explores exercise-induced cortisol levels and their impact on T1D healing, influenced by an article from Shape. It discusses cases of spontaneous remission linked to stress-induced cortisol spikes, suggesting a potential mechanism akin to Peter Levine’s stress cycle theory. This hypothesis prompts consideration of re-enacting past traumas for healing benefits.

            Since writing my post on the fight-or-flight response, I have come across an article that has further developed my understanding and thoughts around this…!  It all started when I was musing about what form of exercise I wanted to select as part of my healing process.  I like doing weight training but I always come away from my sessions feeling pumped up and ready to fight or punch someone.  It made me think about how I might be encouraging the fight-or-flight response in my system.  Therefore, I wasn’t sure that that feeling was inducive to my healing.  So I started Googling to see what I could learn about this.  One of the articles I came across was this article in Shape.  It reassured me that the cortisol from my gym workouts were not going to be troublesome to the health of my body or to my healing.

            This article, though, also mentioned the risk of high cortisol levels from ultra-marathon running (which Daniel Darkes does) and from CrossFit (which Johan Kotze does).  That peaked my interest!  So do elevated cortisol levels somehow help in healing T1D?

            I looked to see if this idea could be seen in the other cases of spontaneous remissions I discussed in my post here.  I got stuck when it came to the case of the 32-year-old female who spontaneously healed from T1D whilst detained in prison.  It was only when I talked this through with a friend who also has T1D that it landed for me…  My friend pointed out that this woman was likely to have been under a lot of stress in a prison environment and without the supply of insulin she needed to keep alive.  So, again, elevated cortisol levels appear to heal not harm!

            My friend and I then wondered why elevated cortisol might be useful in healing T1D.  This idea brought me straight back to the work of Peter Levine (see my post here for more information on that).  Perhaps Daniel, Johan and the unnamed 32-year-old female all healed their Type 1 diabetes by elevating their cortisol levels back to the way they were at the time of diagnosis and then this time were able to complete the stress cycle in a healthy way.  This is much like Peter Levine describes.  In other words, they took their bodies back to the same condition it was in when T1D arrived but this time gave a route to healing instead.  It’s only a hypothesis and I suspect it may be difficult to prove but the idea seems to sit well with the case studies and my own intuitive feel.  It is making me think about, from here, how I may also safely re-enact my early life traumatic experiences and lead them towards a better outcome this time.

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              Fight-or-Flight Response

              Considering Type 1 Diabetes As A Prolonged Fight-Or-Flight Response

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              Summary: The fight-or-flight response is a physiological reaction to perceived threat, which activates the sympathetic nervous system for survival. Could ongoing activation of this response be linked to Type 1 Diabetes? Exploring trauma as a cause, the author considers if unresolved stress may perpetuate this response, hindering healing unless discharged through physical release or other means.

              What Is The Fight-Or-Flight Response?

              The fight-or-flight response is a name given to a multifaceted automatic physiological response to real or perceived threat.  This stressful, alarming or frightening situation leads the body to deactivate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for regulating the body’s rest and digestion responses.  In its place, the sympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system is activated.  This results in a cascade of bodily changes, which include increased respiration, increased heart rate, increased hormonal production and decreased digestion.  These changes prepare the body to fight or flee from the perceived danger.  This danger can be real or perceived as real and can be physical or emotional in nature.  Any perceived threat will kick the parasympathetic nervous system into life.  Then, once the danger has passed, the system is re-regulated by the sympathetic nervous system, with rest and digestion resuming.

              Both the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems consist of a series of nerves that are connected via the spinal cord.  From the spinal cord, these nerves feed into a series of organs in the body.  Interestingly, functions of the pancreas are regulated by the opposing effects of both the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems with both having an effect on insulin production in the beta cells.  The parasympathetic nervous system stimulates insulin secretion.  By contrast, the sympathetic nervous system shuts down insulin production, in order to ensure higher levels of glucose are available in the body in order to facilitate a fight/flight response.  

              Defining Trauma

              I think, before I go on, I need to make it clear what I mean by ‘trauma’.  I like to use Bessel van der Kolk’s definition of trauma as being any ‘inescapable stressful event that overwhelms [the individual’s] existing coping mechanisms’ [1].  Sounds like moments in life with diabetes to me!  For the purposes of this discussion, trauma can include both the huge, life-altering experiences of war or natural disasters, as well as the smaller, insidious traumas of neglect or the loss of a loved one or potentially the daily infractions against the body of medical interventions, such as those used for Type 1 Diabetes.

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              Can Trauma Be The (Ongoing) Cause of Type 1 Diabetes?

              I am starting to wonder whether Type 1 Diabetes may be the result of a triggered fight-or-flight response that has never reset itself.  This triggered response would switch off insulin production and raise blood sugar levels to facilitate escape or a fight.  However, if the body then does not realise or learn that it is now safe again, this fight/flight response will just continue and Type 1 Diabetes occurs.  So could Type 1 Diabetes in fact be an ongoing trauma response for a trauma that has never been fully processed?

              Across the years, I have talked to a number of Type 1 Diabetics and asked them their stories of developing diabetes.  What was going on in their lives at that time?  Again and again, I have heard them say that they suffered a loss, an abandonment, isolation and/or anger.  I heard them say how the person they relied on was no longer there, perhaps due to death or a change of circumstances.  Did these losses trigger a fear response, a fight-or-flight response in their systems?  If the person they relied on was no longer there, they would have had no one to process this through with.  They would have had no way to discharge this response and reset their bodies into using the parasympathetic nervous system.  Their trauma story gets stuck in their bodies and is perpetuated on a daily basis with a ‘diabetic response’ – the continuous and repeated activation of diabetes in the body.

              Completing The Fight-Or-Flight Cycle…?

              I am wondering if the way out of this continuously evoked fight-or-flight response is to find a way to fully discharged it.  If it is pent up in the body, it needs releasing.  Dr Peter Levine, author of ‘Waking The Tiger: Healing Trauma‘ [2], writes about how animals discharge the fight-or-flight response by vibrating, twitching, and lightly trembling.  This sensation spreads throughout the body from the head to the toes and, in the process, resets the system to a resting state.  Dr Levine goes on to discuss how, like animals, humans have instinctual power to heal that just needs tapping.  The question is….  How?

              My mind is going to Daniel Darkes as I write this.  He is an ultra-marathon runner.  Did he manage to discharge the trauma response from his system, and thereby restore his pancreatic functioning, by enacting the flight response through is running? If running does it, do other forms of exercise that stimulate similar levels of movement (swimming and cycling, for example) also provide the body with this flight response?  As yet, I don’t know so, for now, I will sit with the question!

              References:

              [1] van der Kolk, B. A. (1996).  Trauma and memory.  In: A. C. McFarlane, L. Weisaeth, & B. van der Kolk (Eds.), Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society.  (pp. 279-302).  New York: Guildford Press.

              [2] Levine, P. A., & Frederick, A. (1997).  Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma.  Berkeley: North Atlantic Books.

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                Switching Off The Idiot Box!

                From A Crutch To A Restraint

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                Summary: The author discusses how television was once her lifeline during severe depression, but now it’s time to break free. From therapy to rebuilding her life, she’s evolved. Limiting TV to weekends helped, but its emotional impact and numbing effect no longer align with her healing journey. It’s time to eliminate it for a more balanced life.

                Television.  My latest addiction to be kicked to the curb.

                Nearly ten years ago, I was depressed.  Severely depressed.  I was so depleted of energy and life force that I could not get up off the sofa.  I wanted to be a functioning, even respectable, member of the human race but I couldn’t do it.  Life was too hard.  I would spend whole days lying on that sofa, every ounce of me willing myself to… JUST.  SIT. UP.  I couldn’t do it.  The idea of leaving the house was terrifying too.  I couldn’t walk down my street.  I was pervaded by feelings of unknown terror that I just couldn’t explain.  All I knew was that the whole world was just too unsafe and I was too weak to be able to cope.

                I spent my days watching TV.  But the majority of programmes on the telly required too  much from me…  Following a complex plot or intricate dialogue was beyond me.  It wasn’t that I was stupid, far from it, I just wasn’t well.  But the chat show, ‘The Jeremy Kyle Show’, was my nectar.  I watched repeats for five or six hours a day.  It got me through.  It was my lifeline and kept me in touch with the world.

                Roll forward ten years, which included lots of therapy, some medication and a lot of rebuilding of my life, I am in a completely different place.  Now, it’s time to give up the telly.  The only time I watch TV now in my life is in the evening.  I used to veg out most evenings watching it but I realised how much of my life I was wasting.  I wanted to journal, do art, deepen the relationship with my husband, play board games…  The telly was absorbing too much of my time.  So my husband and I agreed to just keep telly to the weekends.  My husband likes watching the telly, particularly movies, so I didn’t want to take that away from him.

                This weekend-only telly routine suited me perfectly over the last year or two.  However, it doesn’t sit right with me anymore.  I have become more highly tuned to what is going on in my life.  Consequently, I have become aware of the violence, the swearing and the drama I watch on the telly and its impact on me.  Telly is successful because of the emotional sway it has.  You enjoy being romanced, scared, deceived or shocked by the programme you watch.  I don’t want to feel that way anymore.  And I also don’t want to use the telly anymore for the numbing effect it has.  If I’m tired or fed up or annoyed about something, I mong out in front of the telly to switch off.  Not anymore.  

                So the next step on my healing journey is to eliminate the television.  I’m sure that I will still watch it on occasion but I will be careful with it.  On the whole, I will avoid the violent, the dark and the destructive.  I am sure there will be the occasional movie or show that still choose to watch but it will the exception, rather than the rule.  After all, a life well lived is one of balance and moderation in all areas.

                Tell me, readers, do you find that television also has a negative impact on you, your mood or your life?  Is it taking you away from activities you would find more meaningful?  Have you found some strategies or implement some boundaries around telly consumption that you have found particularly helpful?  Please share below!

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                  Get Yourself a Hug!

                  Hugging Others And Hugging Yourself Leads To Healing

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                  Summary: Hugging triggers oxytocin release, promoting social bonding and reducing cortisol. Early-life touch shapes vagus nerve development crucial for health. The author’s Type 1 Diabetes led to touch aversion due to medical interventions.  This aversion resembles sensory defensiveness. The Hoffman Process helped the author embrace hugs, easing stress responses. During COVID, when human touch can be risky, self-hugging offers similar benefits, promoting relaxation and healing.

                  When I was growing up, I had a teddy bear called ‘Fete Day’.  My great aunt won him for me at our village fete when I was one year old.  That day, I received Fete Day… And also my diagnosis of Type 1 Diabetes.  Fete Day was by my side during my stay in hospital and was with me throughout the whole of my childhood.  I loved him until his leg fell off and had to be ‘operated on’ (sewn back into place!) by my mum.  To me, that bear was, and still is, ‘real’.  (If you’re not sure what I mean by ‘real’…  Please, please, please read the Velveteen Rabbit.  It’s an absolutely beautiful book!)

                  I never used to like being hugged.  Fete Day was the exception. He was a safe option.  Thankfully, I came from a family where hugs were generally not high on the priority list and certainly didn’t feature in my daily life.  I felt safer when I wasn’t hugged.  This is unlikely to be without consequences, though.

                  The Psychobiology Of Hugging

                  The act of hugging produces a series of psychobiological effects in the body.  Primarily, it releases the peptide oxytocin, which is responsible for facilitating social interaction and wellbeing, as well as reducing the stress hormone cortisol.  

                  Regular hugging and touch is also essential in early childhood to facilitate the proper development of the vagus nerve.  The vagus nerve is a nerve that runs from the head to the gut.  It is the main component of the parasympathetic nervous system, which contributes to a wide range of bodily functions, including digestion and regulating heart rate.

                  So, without hugging in early childhood, and then into adulthood, the body will be rife with raised cortisol levels, poorer digestive function and inhibited social functioning.

                  Type 1 Diabetes And The Fear Of Touch

                  As I have worked on my healing and investigated my internal world, something has become clear to me about my aversion to hugging.  I believe that my unwillingness to engage in this social norm is easily explained when you look at my experiences through childhood.  In my life, human touch was often followed by sharp pain as the needle of the next syringe went into my bodily tissue or the next finger-prick was required for blood testing.  The vast majority of interactions of touch followed this pattern.  Therefore, the association of touch with pain was strengthened everyday in my mind.  The next touch would most likely cause the next serving of pain.  Touch became physically, and emotionally, painful to me.

                  ‘Social Defensiveness’ And Type 1 Diabetes

                  The medical community have come up with some names for this response.  Firstly, there is ‘sensory defensiveness’, where a person (adult or child) reacts with a strong ‘fight-or-flight’ (or ‘freeze’) response to a stimulus or sensation that most people wouldn’t consider threatening.  Touch is one of these sensations.

                  Secondly, there is ‘haphephobia’.  This is when the aversion to touch has become so marked that it develops into a full phobia.  People with haphephobia will have strong fear or anxiety when thinking about being touched.  This will demonstrate itself physiologically with an increased heart rate, sweating, hot flushes, tingling and other fight-or-flight symptoms.  Social situations became near impossible for these people and life can become extremely difficult.

                  I don’t for one second think I have haphephobia but sensory defensiveness feels appropriate.  For years, when someone came towards me for a hug, I  would brace my body and hunch my shoulders.  My breathing rate would slow or stop.  I would turn side-on so that the person ended up hugging my side, rather than my vulnerable chest area.  My whole body had effectively gone into a paused mode, a freeze response.

                  Medical News Today states that haphephobia can be caused by experiencing a traumatic event that involved being touched.  I believe the continuous onslaught of invasive medical treatments, at an age when I could not understand, would have created such a ‘little t’ trauma that resulted in a strong aversion to touch.

                  Healing A Hugging Aversion

                  The turning point for me in hugging career(!) came when I attended the Hoffman Process.  This process was life-changing for me.  Whilst I will not be going into the details of what the process involves (I wouldn’t want to ruin the fun if you haven’t done it yet!!), I will say that it completely transformed my ability to hug.  I learnt to feel safe in a hug.

                  I still cannot face being hugged, or touched in any way, when I am angry or extremely upset.  When my fight-or-flight response is activated, hugging is off the agenda.  But, normally, I now happily welcome hugs from friends and family.  When I hug now, I feel this initial moment when my body is tense and my breathing subsides.  But, if I wait maybe just five or ten seconds, I feel my whole system relax as this wave washes over me.  It’s like my whole body is giving a long, slow exhale or sigh.

                  My self-observation of this effect is actually supported by scientific research.  This study shows how many forms of physical touch, including hugging, is associated with lower blood pressure, lower heart rate, and higher oxytocin levels.

                  Hugging In COVID Times

                  Have you seen ‘The Minimalists: Less is Now’ on Netflix?  The Minimalists are two guys, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, who promote the idea of living a good life with less stuff.  I love that!  

                  In their documentary, there is a scene where they explain that they are ‘huggers’.  They like to hug, rather than shake hands when they meet people.   (I assume this was filmed in pre-COVID days!).  This scene got me thinking about how they have so successfully implemented a robust hugging schedule(!) in their lives without having to either add it to their to-do list or count their hugs to ensure they have hit a hugging minimum for the day.  It just simply is…  ‘See a person, hug them’!

                  I’d love to employ the same strategy, knowing that it is contributing to my health, healing and happiness so effectively.  But, in these current COVID times, I’m not sure it’s the wisest idea for a diabetic.  It certainly comes with additional risks!

                  Hug Yourself!

                  I believe that there are two workarounds for the ‘no hugging during COVID times’ conundrum.

                  Firstly, I intend to hug, and hug often, everyone I live with (as long as they don’t test positively for COVID or start exhibiting symptoms!), including my dogs!  I’m sure they will benefit from this as much as I will.

                  Secondly, I can hug myself.  This study has found that, like hugging others, self-hugging releases the love hormone oxytocin and also produces anti-stress effects, such as reduced blood pressure and cortisol levels.  It also improves the function of the gastrointestinal tract.  In other words, it takes the body from a state of ‘fight-or-flight’ to one of relaxation…  And relaxation is where the healing takes place.
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                    Book: ‘Forgiveness’ by Iyanla Vanzant

                    A Step-By-Step Process For Forgiveness

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                    Summary: In her blog post, the author recounts her journey using Iyanla Vanzant’s book “Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything”. Initially skeptical, she found the structured daily forgiveness process challenging yet transformative. Despite some religious undertones and the need for additional tapping scripts, the experience ultimately led her to profound personal healing and a new perspective on forgiveness as a path to inner peace and healing.

                    Having decided to try forgiveness (see my blog post here for that adventure!), I wasn’t sure where to start.  I turned to trusted(!) Google to explore my options.  The option that jumped out at me most was the book ‘Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything’ by Iyanla Vanzant.  It sounded fantastic!  I could do this whole forgiveness thing, for everyone in my life, in just 21 days?!  I was in!!

                    Iyanla Vanzant’s Book: Forgiveness: 21 Days To Forgive Everyone For Everything

                    Iyanla Vanzant’s book is based on a structure to follow each day for 21 days.  You start by forgiving yourself on day one and then the book extends out to forgiving your body, your life, your parents, women in general, men in general, other family members and so on.  It is definitely an all-encompassing, covers everything kind of book!

                    The process for each day consists of meditation, prayer, some beautiful passages to read, then scripting the tapping exercises (instructions are provided).  Then you perform the tapping exercises until you have forgiven all of your resentments.  Then, you end the practice with another meditation.

                    My Lived Experience Of The Book

                    My experience of the book was definitely mixed.  Each day, you are asked to forgive yourself for what you have believed about others, rather than directly forgiving those who have hurt you.  I found this really tough in the first few days.  I was resentful and angry that I had to forgive myself for what I believed about my mother/father/brother/sister etc. when I felt it was those, not me, that needed forgiving.  A part of me felt like I was being blamed for having somehow misunderstood my own reality.

                    I also found the tapping process to be challenging to start with.  I had already had experience of tapping through Nick Ortner’s book ‘The Tapping Solution’ but this had different tapping points and required me to draft my own tapping scripts.  I found it all a bit complicated and overwhelming to start with.  But I kept at it.
                    A few days in, the process got easier.  I understood what I was doing.  In general, it wasn’t taking me so long to get through the reading and tapping.  And I started to soften.  As I tapped, I witnessed new thoughts arrive as I worked through the scripts.  I would start the process feeling adamant that someone had done me wrong but, as the tapping continued, I would find new insights and new thoughts about the same belief unfolded.  These thoughts were definitely new, things that I could not have thought about the people who had wronged me.  At these moments, forgiveness entered my life.
                    Don’t get me wrong, though.  This process was hard work.  For some people in my life, forgiveness was slow to come and I had to repeat the tapping scripts many, many times.  I went well over an hour on some occasions.  I had to take breaks and come back.  At worst, I procrastinated for six days about forgiving one particular person!  But I did return and I kept at it until I had finished.

                    My Review Of The Book

                    In total, the whole process took me forty days (including all my days of procrastination and outright avoidance!!).  I found the book held me well through the process and I liked that meditation and readings were also included each day.  It gave me more depth to the forgiveness process and more understanding of what was to be gained by continuing.

                    I am glad that I have done this work.  I feel so much better from the experience.  I feel lighter and less burdened.  I am more at peace, more joyful and more present to myself.  I feel I have gained a lot from the experience.  It gave me more understanding of the responsibility I hold for my  own happiness and that forgiveness is  possible for me.

                    I also now understand, having witnessed my feelings unfold during the tapping process, how my emotions can shift in relation to the same set of inputs about any situation, even without processing my emotional response to it first.

                    I have also learnt that forgiveness is a process.  This book has really helped me attain forgiveness for so many old hurts and wounds.  I feel lighter and more at peace, whilst still being aware that some things still haven’t shifted.  In that regard, I suspect that I will need to return to this book periodically to ‘top up’ my forgiveness.  I think it will be a tool I continue to use going forward in my life.

                    A Couple Of Caveats

                    My first caveat is that there are only a handful of tapping scripts provided in the book  to use with the different groups of people to forgive.  I found those that were provided to be extremely helpful and made the day’s forgiveness practice much easier and quicker.  I would have appreciated having more of these scripts throughout the weeks.

                    My second caveat about this book is that it is definitely faith-based.  It feels Christian in nature to me and some of the prayers feel very religious in nature.  But it can still definitely work for people who, like me, would include themselves in the ‘spiritual but not religious group’.  But for agnostics and atheists, I think this may be too faith-based to work for you.

                    My Learning Through This Process

                    I really feel transformed from having committed to Iyanla Vanzant’s ’21 Days to Forgiveness’.  It has taught me how the process of forgiveness is more important for me than for the other person involved.  Forgiveness is about your relationship with yourself, not about the other.  But, by forgiving the other, it will always change the relationship between you both.  If you change yourself, others can’t help but then change in response to you.  The conditions for the very relationship have changed.  But I do not think that that should be the reason for undertaking forgiveness work.  I think the pain has to be sat with and your own perspective has to be heard and validated first.

                    I am now sitting in a new place, where I can appreciate the traumas I went through in a new light.  In their own way, they have opened me up to more of life.  My spirituality has definitely had a part to play in this too, though.  It has enabled me to reach for the understanding that everything that has happened to me has happened with a purpose behind it.  That belief then leads me to acceptance of the fact that I am enough, just as I am.  I am not flawed or imperfect.  I am whole and complete.  The wounds I carry are part of my beauty – they open me up to more joy and beauty in the world.  Having reached that place, forgiveness comes easily because I am worthy of forgiveness.  Once I saw that I was worthy of forgiveness, even with my flaws and wounds, then others are also worthy of that same forgiveness too.  Forgiveness is the antidote to anger, which leads to healing.  Healing is where I am and where I’m heading.

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